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Is it okay to give up?

Updated: Jun 27, 2019

Tower is card is a sign of transition that is about to take place.

Words of Wisdom from yoMamaRice. Not all of us had parents who taught us how to live life. My parents couldn't or didn't... I share with you some wisdoms I've learned the hard way in hopes that you can have an easier path.


Sometimes you have to die a little to grow big. God, I used to hate this card - The Tower! It is a card that means destruction of something in your life. It comes with turmoil and end of something. However, this card is necessary to grow as a person because we all know with winter comes spring.

The Tower is crashing down!

“Don’t give up!” “Keep fighting!” “Dream on!”

This is a big mantra in our society. I believe this encouragement could be dangerous... because sometimes, we should give up. (Discretion: I don't mean suicide.)

Sometimes, it's healthy to know when it's time to let go.

Don’t we define crazy as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results? So in order to not do the same thing over again, we need to give up.

Give up a little bit of our ideas... wants and adapt. If what you're doing is not working, you need to change your plan, step back and reassess. 

Don’t be a Gatsby, reaching for the light across the river for the love of a woman that will never love you back. It’s okay in movies and novels but don’t live your life like that, a poetic tragedy or worse yet, a crazy stalker.

"If it's too hard, it's probably not right.”

Don’t we as human beings change every 7 or so years?

I’m not the same person I was 7 years ago. So what you thought you wanted at 20 might not be the same thing at 40. 

You could do all the positive thinking and “Secret” manifesting... but reality check - example: If you are black and it’s 1880, no way in hell, however determined you are, will you be president of the United States. 

There is a thing called reality... I hear some of you.

So am I saying not to dream big?  It’s okay to dream but I'm saying get to the root of your dream. 

As I age and grow wiser, I realize, I want to pick my battles. I want to be happy and live the rest of my life in peace, not frustrated and unhappy. 

So you make compromises and rethink what is it about being president that made you want it?

Was it the power? The need to help people? Make changes? 

Get to the root of your needs.

If the root of your need to be president is to "make changes", there are other ways to do that by getting involved in your local community, school, etc.. I guess you start small and satisfy that need then take it one step at a time. If you land being a president in that process, that would be added bonus instead of making something out of your realm, your main purpose in life.

Pick your battle within your power and realm of reality and still satisfy that need to be president.  Hopefully in the act of doing your dream, you could maybe possibly achieve it without compromising your happiness [but probably not being a black president in 1880].

Sometimes, giving up doesn’t make you a looser but makes you realistic, a grown-up, taking control of your life because tomorrow might not come. So I say it’s okay to give up. As one door closes another opens and you could move on and go forward.

Lastly, the life lesson I learned is - "If it's too hard, it's probably not right." If you are swimming up river, nothing is working and you are exhausted because things are not lining up, it's probably a sign that it's not right for you. Usually, things happen magically and easily if it's meant to be. Yes, even being president.

words of wisdom from yoMamaRice

first written on Dec 28, 2016 with revisions at later date including this.

We evolve yo!

Following interview was my inspiration : ON NPR - WAIT WAIT DON’T TELL ME

Not My Job: How Much Does Producer Norman Lear Know About Learjets? ....

SAGAL: So do you have any tips for those of us who would like to arrive at 93 as spry and as successful and happy as you are?

LEAR: What occurred to me first is two simple words...

SAGAL: Yeah.

LEAR: ...Maybe as simple as any two words in the English language - over and next.

SAGAL: Over and next.

LEAR: And we don't pay enough attention to them.

LEAR: When something is over, it is over...

DICKINSON: Oh my God, I love that.

SAGAL: Yeah.

LEAR: ...And we are on to next.

SAGAL: Right.

LEAR: And if there were - there was to be a hammock in the middle...

SAGAL: Yeah.

LEAR: ...Between over and next, that would be what is meant by living in the moment.

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