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Do you have crabby friends?

Updated: May 26, 2020

Do you ever feel like some of your friends are don't have your best interest at heart?

It's probably because they don't.


Words of Wisdom from yoMamaRice. Not all of us had parents who taught us how to live life. My parents couldn't or didn't... I share with you some wisdoms I've learned the hard way in hopes that you can have an easier path.

 

Nothing like giving a go with your dreams to find out who your true friends are… I’ve had some giant disappointments and some pleasant surprises with friends on who came through with support vs a slap down. Batting average, I would say the later has been winning but when a light of support comes through, its like a drink from a magical goblet.


I can't help thinking only if people you considered your friends acted like a friend, like have your back.


On my way home from screening at my last film festival - IFS Film Festival, my Uber driver told me a wise thing like a moral of message from the Gods.





He said “Do you know about the crabs in a bucket?"

Say what?

He told me his mom gave him word of motherly advice when he was young.

She put a bunch of crabs in a bucket and told him to take a look. When one crab gets to the top and tries to crawl out, the other crabs will hold onto him and drag him back down into the bucket. She said that was how folk are.

“If I can't have it, you cant have it, either.”

If the crabs helped each other, most of them could probably get out of the bucket but instead they will all collectively die because they don’t want to see just one of them finding success in getting out of the bucket safe.

“She put a bunch of crabs in a bucket and told him to take a look. When one crab gets to the top and tries to crawl out, the other crabs will hold onto him and drag him back down into the bucket.”

I googled this and this a real thing. Its called the crab effect.


This is exactly what I have been experiencing… I’ve had friends who don’t want to extend help because they want to keep you in your place or its too much trouble or they have nothing to gain, so LA and sooo Hollywood.


Uber driver said those are the crabs, you let them go. Hallelujah! and I'm not even religious.


Well, I say put those crabs in soy sauce. Really. It's a Korean dish - Gan Jang - Ge Jang.

My Grandma’s favorite dish and mine as well!

You put them raw crabs in soy sauce and marinate it. Like poke in soy sauce and eat 'em up and shit it out! like the crab friends.

I do love crab.


Do you remember the scene in "The Castaway” with Tom Hanks where Hanks’ character is starving and all he sees is a crab. He tries to eat it raw and you guys were like - gross! and I was like yum.


Don't knock it til you try it, or you could just stick to your boring burger and pizza.This dish is best served with hot steaming rice. Give it a try! and forget those crabby friends.

Here’s a link to a recipe if you want to try and make it. My favorite online Korean recipe site - Maangchi


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