Ghandi approach? Ghandi's peaceful protest and Obama's if they go low... Pleeease. They mean well but in reality, a bully's gotta get a slap down.
Words of Wisdom from yoMamaRice. Not all of us had parents who taught us how to live life. My parents couldn't or didn't... I share with you some wisdoms I've learned the hard way in hopes that you can have an easier path.
Obama's "When they go low, you go High" aka the Ghandi approach does not work, at least not for me, it never did. You know what I'm talking about. Peaceful protest where you just let your bully keep hitting you in hopes they will grow up and learn that hitting is not cool.
Well, let me tell you. A bully doesn't all of a sudden get enlightened because they see that their fists are bloodying your face.
When I was a little girl, I learned about Ghandi and I was so impressed that I decided that I will follow his lead and do what he did - the Ghandi approach. (It's kinda like the Buddha thing.)
My sister and I used to have bad fights, fists, hair pull, objects flying in the air and all. We were like the World Wide Wrestling meet hormonal school girls on outrage. So after learning about Ghandi, I decided that I would take his peaceful, non-confrontational, be-a-Buddha approach.
"She'd gleefully pound on me and she was just like, this is toooo easy and just kept beating me up. And she was smaller than me, younger than me. I could have just taken her out but Ghandi - I did, until one day...the one fateful day... when I was like. "I ain't taking this shit anymore!!!!"
My sister would rail on me and I would just sit there and take it. This went on for what it felt like forever. She would throw, hit and I would just sit there, all peaceful. Did she feel some kind of remorse? Feel enlightened hitting me? Or even let up a little?
Answer is NO! I was just a sitting duck, an easy target. She'd gleefully pound on me and she was just like, this is toooo easy and just kept beating me up. And she was smaller than me, younger than me. I could have just taken her out but Ghandi - I did, until one day...the one fateful day... when I was like. "I ain't taking this shit anymore!!!!" and my hand 'accidentally' struck her.
Then do you know what happened? She got scared and she never hit me after that. Surprise! So in my experience, a bully doesn't stop bullying because you take the peaceful, non-violent approach. I've never met a bully that was like - oh shit - she's going to take the high road so I learned my lesson and I'm going to be an accountable human being.
They only stop when they feel fear because they know that there are consequences, like getting their ass kicked. Consequences, you say? Yeah, that is exactly what we tell our kids... so why would bullies be different?
Lastly, the Buddha thing that Asia likes to promote that is pretty much the Ghandi thing and the Western "hippies" like to admire and think that they are all peaceful and what not....
Buddha was created to keep the masses down kinda like all religions. Sure, there are some amazing thing about Buddha and all other religion but think about it. If say "the people" were upset because the "haves" are controlling everything and being greedy ... what better way to keep the "have-not's" down than by telling them to take the Buddha aka Ghandi approach instead of revolting and taking the French revolution tactic?
I'm not saying violence is the answer but when a bully doesn't change their behavior, showing them fear is.